Not long ago, I participated in a teaching skills seminar, and the teacher asked the students to write down “The three most important people in your life?”
Most of the students wrote about their parents, children, and significant other, and some wrote about the noble people they had met in their lives, the teachers who changed their lives, etc.
The students, including me, were very satisfied with their answers. They felt that the teacher must want us to think about our relationship with important others, right?
As a result, the teacher waited for everyone to finish writing their answers and then asked only one question: “Those who wrote “self” in their answers raised their hands.”
Everyone seemed to be struck by thunder, their faces turned red and white, and they looked at each other. No one raised their hands, and finally they all lowered their heads.
My heart ached and I was depressed.
Why, the three most important people in my life are not myself? Why do I feel that I am not important?
Starting now, let’s find ourselves again. Don’t just look at the relationship between “important others” and us, but cherish the “important self”. Is it too late?
[Extended reading]Do others live better lives? You can’t get it because you don’t want it enough! Three steps to overturn mediocrity and train your mind to succeed!
Wen Xinlan, the moderator of the fan blog “Human Pictures in the Workplace,” is a public relations executive and a quasi-analyst of human pictures.
In her new book, “Living Up to Yourself Is the Best Life,” she uses human images to talk to herself and explore issues and attitudes toward work, relationships with people, and facing shortcomings.
For those who long for a lifetime of love and satisfaction, the answer has always been ourselves.
With “self-acceptance” as the center, we can cast new eyes on our workplace, relationships, and life, and practice not rushing or coveting.
How to live up to yourself? I have compiled 10 of my favorite maxims from the book to share with you:
① There is no need to improve or improve your original appearance, let alone pursue perfection, just live how you should be.
② Become someone who truly understands and likes you first, and you will definitely win the kiss that understands and cherishes you enough.
③ The greatest condition for love is to keep yourself and cherish yourself. Don’t expect her to be in love, fill in any missing seats, and don’t sell yourself in exchange for love.
④ Having no mind will be broader than tolerating one’s own failure.
⑤ The nutrients learned from mistakes and failures are better than smooth sailing.
[Extended Reading]Peace is blessing. Isn’t it safer not to take risks? The cruel truth you should know: The biggest adventure in life is when you decide not to take it!
⑥ The way to overcome thorns is to understand the other person’s true appearance and not to vilify the other person’s true appearance.
⑦ Adversity does not distinguish between you and me. When living an ordinary married life, it is best to remember the original you and me and not try to change the original you and me.
Look at defects
⑧ I like you not because of how thin, beautiful or knowledgeable you are. But because, you are you. Be unique and there is no one like you.
⑨ If you only go up the mountain with a conquering heart, you will eventually be swallowed by the mountain; only with a heart as broad as a valley, you will always sit back and watch the great scenery of the rising clouds.
⑩ In this life, we should not only “be used by others”, but also “be used by ourselves” – learn to love ourselves; believe that we are worthy of love.
[Extended Reading]What those popular Netflix series teach us!Use the “Three Act Drama” structure to transform life’s failure group into life’s victory group
Who are the three most important people in your life? Do you have yourself?
have? marvelous! Please continue to love yourself well and live up to your own beauty.
No? congratulations! Life is still long, from now on, put yourself in an important position, you will find a new and best life, start now!
[Extended reading]How could I be wrong? Understand the three “fluency effects”, avoid overconfidence, and crack cognitive biases!
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